Depressed person dating depressed person

There are more adult examples later in life, but they’re not nearly as funny or tragic.

At such times you may feel helpless and unable to understand what is going on.There are endless aphorisms about love and dating that get branded into our brains from a very young age. But the worst one is the notion that you must learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Because it fails to take into account histories of mental difference.It’s a turn of phrase without any nuance that serves to make those of us who are predisposed to feeling bad feel even worse.Depression builds walls around people and between people. They can feel hard to reach, and sometimes they can be angry or appear as though they don’t care.When someone you love has been dragged inside those walls, there can be a distance between you both that feels relentless. All of them are normal human experiences, but in depression they’re intensified. It’s a withdrawal from everything that is enriching and life-giving. That isn’t because they want to withdraw from you or push you away, they don’t, although it can feel that way. When depression settles into someone, helplessness, fear and sadness bleed through the walls it builds around that person and into the lives of those who love them. There is always a way through depression but it takes an almighty fight.

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